Start here

Hello fellow people who want to change or improve their life. The common question all of you share rigth now is: “what is this blog actually about?’. The truth is that this blog is just as much an experiment to me as it is to you. I don’t exactly know which direction I want to head to. Let me take you together with me through the wonderful journey of self-experimentation. The journey where we are going participate in all sorts of crazy experiments to find out who we are and how we can improve ourselves. Let’s challenge these inner critiques and finally get rid of all this anxiety that has build up in our body! Let’s start to embark the journey to become antifragile.

Your only competition is the person that you were yesterday. Don’t compare yourself to others.

Start your jouney here to accelerate and move up on your own performance ladder

Grafiek, Statistiek, Gegevens, Histogram
most useless graph ever

This is how it’s going to work. I’m going to discuss seven princeples that influence my own growth process and my process to crush obstacles. The following blog posts are going to be compiled into these categories. That’s why this is such an important blog post. It will give you a basic understanding to make sense of the other articles on this blog.

Be curious:

Vraagteken, Weg, Afstand, Toekomen
Always stay curious

This principle is actually inspired by the first principle thinking of Elon Musk. If you want to excel in life, you have to be able to challenge your basic assumptions. Who says for example that a dating mailing list would never work. Be a chef and don’t be a cook. Know the ingredients you’re cooking with. Understand how the ingredients interact with each other.

In order to accomplish these challenges you and me are going to stay curious to discover new ideas. Now is the time to widen your horizon. Now is the time to celebrate that inner child of you. Now is the time to be amazed by everything that’s happening around you. Don’t believe stuff because that’s what have been told to you. Be a little bit of a rebel in this world of obedience.

The most sophisticated people I know – inside they are all children.

-Jim Henson-


Schrijfmachine, Verbeelding, Vogel

There is nothing more satisfying then being able to create one of your own masterpieces. We’re so busy being consumed by the media that’s surrouding us that we have forgotten to create pieces of ourselves. In the self-determination theory that’s defined as the feeling of competence. This is the feeling you have when you can accomplish something on your own. We can create on so many diverse ways. The opportunities are litteraly endless. There is art, music, story-telling, writing, acting, moviemaking and so much more. The secret to create things to be proud of, is to be able to think outside of the box and to let yourself free of the judgements of other people. If you can achieve that, you won’t need this blog anymore. Because we like the art of nuancing, I’ve added the following quote to this paragrafh.

Think outside the box? Indeed. But to add balance to that, one should not in the process forget what the inside of the box looks like as well. Those who are best at thinking outside the box do it not to puff themselves up, but to see how small they really are. As a contented fish in its fish tank appears to have a small, boring existence to us, imagine a larger, more perceptive kingdom (even by scientific taxonomy) to whom our contented existences may appear to be small and boring. This is where true creativity and massive perceptive abilities spawn a sense of intellectual humility; the kind which God adores.
― Criss Jami, Killosophy


E Mail, Nieuwsbrief, Marketing, Online

Haven’t we all forgotten how to communicate nowadays. The day I’m writing this blogpost the world has completely changed. People aren’t meeting in real life anymore, we can’t hug each other anymore. It’s because of a reason we would never have thought of a couple of years ago. Nobody of us could have forecasted that our lives would have shaken up so much by an invisble enemy. But here we are. Now more then ever, it’s the time to own your communication skills. I’m by no means an example of this subject. That’s why I’m turning this into a real-life experiment. As a professional shy person, this is going to be one of the hardest challenges of my life. Are you willing to follow me along my journey and maybe even join me by completing certain challenges. I don’t suppose this is going to be a life changer. It’s mostly going to be hard and uncomfortable. That’s what makes it so exciting!

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”

Anthony Robbins

Code/ problem solve:

Vinger, Vingerafdruk, Beveiliging

Coding is the new trendy word everybody loves to use. I’m not the first one to tell you that coding is a very usefull skill to have. But if you really think about it, it’s not really about the coding itself. First of all it’s about understanding what happens under the hood of a lot of computer programs. It’s about being able to own the new digital age instead of being the slave of it. Secondly, coding is actually the act of giving instructions to a computer. It’s nothing more than that. Off course the sort of instructions you need to give, can become very complicated. But the basics are covered by this simple explanation I just gave you. So what coding actually teaches us is the art of breaking a project down into a set of achievable actions. It forces us to go through all of the steps we have to take in order to achieve a certain goal. It help us to be able to see the simplicity of a very complex problem. It forces us to organize our mind and ideas in an algorithmic way. That’s what I love the most about the idea of coding. I’m very early in the process of coding. So this is going to be the process of a complete technology noob to form a friendship with computers. The first few projects are going to be about automatisation and other simple projects to make my life go easier. Every task that we can give to a computer, is a task saved from our own to-do list.

Remember that code is really the language in which we ultimately express the requirements. We may create languages that are closer to the requirements. We may create tools that help us parse and assemble those requirements into formal structures. But we will never eliminate necessary precision—so there will always be code.
― Robert C. Martin

Cook/ consume calories:

Ratatule, Tomaat, Courgette, Cook, Herhaal De Procedure

However this section goes against my stoic tendencies, I still love the art of cooking and consuming these delicious calories afterwards. Cooking is for me the ultimate act of mindfullness. When I cook, the repetitive movements take me to a place where I can dream, smell, taste and litteraly celebrate all my human senses. Cooking helps me to put things into perspective. I tend to forget all the misery in the rest of this world while I’m engaged in this beautifull play with fruits, vegetables and other ingredients. Cooking is like dancing. Cooking is like creating art. Cooking is an experience you can’t explain to somebody else. You have to start cooking right now. I’m going to offer you all the tools to be a real chef. Everything you need to build every single recipe from scratch.

 In the past, I have made no secret of my disdain for Chef Gusteau’s famous motto: Anyone can cook. But I realize, only now do I truly understand what he meant. Not everyone can become a great artist, but a great artist can come from anywhere. It is difficult to imagine more humble origins than those of the genius now cooking at Gusteau’s, who is, in this critic’s opinion, nothing less than the finest chef in France. I will be returning to Gusteau’s soon, hungry for more.

-Out of the movie Ratatouile

Calm down:

De Weg, Balken, Pad, Bos, Natuur, Stilte

Sometimes the only thing we really need to do at a certain moment, is try to calm down. In a world where everything feels rushed and we always seems to be struggling with a shortage of time, there never really is a moment to relax and unwind. That’s probably one of the reasons we suppose that we can solve these problems by technology and science. We try to hack our lives by doing cleansing diets, trying out meditation apps and going on very expensive social media free retreats. Only we as humans can make up a story that we need to solve a lack of time by spending more time and energy at imaginary solutions for very sophisticated problems. The real magic trick is actually just being able to listen to your body and take the rest whenever you need it. You don’t need a certain app to tell you when to rest. Try to get as much as possible back in touch with your body, as it seems you have lost that connection some time ago. I’m going to give you some tools I personally use. These are very intimate tools and should be not be copied into your own lifestyle. This guide will offer you some possibilities of approaches you can use to calm down. But fundamentally it’s up to you to choose which approach you would like to implement into your own life.

Set peace of mind as your highest goal, and organize your life around it.

Brian Tracy


Karate, Zonsondergang, Strijd, Sport

What I mean by this last principle, is that we have to honour our body by defending it. We can accomplish this through multiple practices: physical exercise, mental exercises, martial arts, Yoga, psychotherapy etc. We defend our body by strengthening it and respecting its hidden powers and talents. You will never know which things you could be capable of if you never challenge yourself to participate in a true mental or physical challenge. Personally, this is a difficult subject in which I have to find a balance between self-love and self-reselience. Both are really important to become a strong and independent person. It’s not about building a passive income/ lifestyle like so many guru’s like to tell you. It’s about having the ability to bounce back after you have faced a challenge. The only way you can do so is by putting your mental and physical health first. Are you ready to take on this challenge?

Typically, people who exercise, start eating better and becoming more productive at work. They smoke less and show more patience with colleagues and family. They use their credit cards less frequently and say they feel less stressed. Exercise is a keystone habit that triggers widespread change.
― Charles Duhigg, The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business

When should you read this blog and participate in the challenges?

This is for you:

  • If you struggle with anxiety.
  • If you feel lost in life.
  • If you want to rediscover yourself.
  • If you’re eager to learn .
  • If you’re willing to put a lot of effort into getting to know yourself.

This is not for you:

  • If yor feel mental stable and calm.
  • If you are not interested in self discovery.
  • If you don’t want put in the time that’s needed to grow.
  • If you don’t like my content.

So let’s get started if you want to go on this journey together with me and start reading your first blog post.


Subscribe to my weekly newsletter on sunday if you want to stay up to date with all off my brain pickings and participate in crazy challenges!

We keep your data private and share your data only with third parties that make this service possible. Read our full Privacy Policy.